You Make Me Feel Like a Natural Woman

Men seem to have such varying taste in women, it's difficult to predict what one man will want. The stereotype, of course, is that men want tan, big breasted, small-waisted blondes that wear plunging neck lines, short skirts and heels. Some may go for that. Then some may go for you, no matter what you're wearing. These men don't care if you put on make-up, they don't care what you wear. There is more going on here than superficiality vs. genuineness. This isn't just a blog about how some men like apples and some oranges. If you are in a relationship, both of you should accept each other for how you are. The only time intervention should occur into the other's looks is if the person is becoming unhealthy, and this is an issue that should be approached with extreme sensitivity and delicacy since it most certainly would be taken with offense, but still must be said, none the less.

If you are already a lucky lady who has a wonderful man that values you for who you are and not how you dress, then I have a challenge for you: Give up the facade. This is certainly not to say "give up." I think people should take pride in their appearance, and women especially should feel beautiful. I gave up the facade, but I didn't give up. I still know how to look hot without looking or feeling fake. :)

Here is what I do in order to give up the facade. Maybe you would rather start small by cutting back on make up. I was able to figure out what feels natural to me.

1.) I only wear mascara for make up. I still have other make-up for really special occasions, but on a daily/work basis, I only wear mascara. My skin quality has improved immensely, but the mascara still gives me a little pop.

2.) I do not shave. This was a difficult one because I felt better physically after shaving in the past and hairy legs made me feel masculine at first. Then my husband reminded me that it's not masculine...it's human. We are the ones that changed things. Of course, I still wear short skirts with tights. I never show my legs. And with it being winter, it feels cozy. This isn't to say I won't shave come summer time, but it shouldn't be an expected thing to shave even when legs aren't seen.

3.) I only wash my hair 2 or 3 times a week. This is one most people are already aware of because many magazines like Cosmo have been recommending that women now wash their hair every day for years. It is better for the health and appearance of your hair. But your hair gets oily if you go a day without washing it? That is because you wash it every day. Try showering at night, the next day you don't wash it, the next day you shower again at night. That's a good start. Also, to get over that oil phase, try putting baby powder, baking powder, or even flour in your hair to soak up the extra oil. I still bathe daily, I just avoid washing my hair.

4.) A huge thing that aids women's health is avoiding wearing underwear. Underwear is extremely bad for your feminine hygeine. Cotton is best because it's somewhat breathable, but it is still not preferable. The underwear holds in heat which is a breeding ground for bacteria. You can get vaginal infections and it is not pleasant. The absolute best way to be healthy down there is to wear a skirt (maybe with a slip or petticoat under it, or not) with no underwear. Of course, I don't do this every day myself, I'm just telling you what's best. I still wear pants most days, just pants that are better without underwear. And I try to wear skirts more.

5.) You don't have to do exactly what I do, just do something to make yourself feel like you, without all the fake beauty things we do. Do something to avoid the facade.

Feel Beautiful Naturally!

My project of the day today sewing potholders. You make it like a little quilt by piecing four squares together (handsewn). Then you find a backing that is about an inch bigger all around than your square. Take some kind of batting (the middle piece) like cotton, wool, or even other materials and sew through all three layers to quilt it either on machine or by hand in whatever quilting pattern you'd like. Finish it by folding the bottom layer over the top layer all around and sew it down. Voila!

This is before it is sewed down, but you can still get an idea of what the finished product will look like.